Why most men wont" Settle Down( my rantings )

ALTHOUGH IM CURRENTLY ENJOYING THE BENEFITS OF BEING SINGLE FOR NOW DOESNT MEAN IM NOT HOPING OR WAITING ON tHINGS TO PROGRESS BUT IT SEEMS THAT MOST GUYS ARE TRYING TO sEE WHERE THEY CAN FIT IN TO ENJOY THE BENEFITS ALSO BUT WILL RIDE IT OUT AS LONG AS POSSIBLE WITH NO PLANS OF REALLY BEING SERIOUS OR COMMITIING SO IVE COMPILED MY OWN LIST TO ADDRESS WHERE I MYSELF HAS GONE wRONG AND WHERE I dONT INTEND TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES FOr 2013.SO HERE IT IS: 1.YOU KNOW THAT EXPRESSION "WHY BUY THE COW WHEN U CAN HAVE THE MILK FOR FREE". IF a GUY FEELS HE CAN REAP tHE BENEFITS OF BEING A BOYFRIEND W/O CLAIMING THE TITLE THEN WHY WOULD HE? MAKE THINGS CLEAR OF WHAT YOU wANT AND DONT BEND. THERE IS NO COMPROMISING MY HEART AND GOOD PENIS DONT MEAN "LOVE".IF HE WANTS YOU HE WILL WAIT aND RESPECT YOU. tHATS LIKE GOING IN PAPPADEUXS AND TELLING THEM YOU WANNA TRY EVERYTHING ON THE MENU BEFORE YOU DECIDE IF THE CUISINE wAS WORTH THE PURCHASE.UNLESS YOUrE PAYING FOR A SAMPLER PLATE WONT BE NO MEALS LET ALONE AN APPETIZER.MY #2. REASON IVE FOUND IS THAT MOST MEN HAVE A NEGATIVE PERCEPTION OF A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP....EITHER HE WITNESSED UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN THE PAST,PARENTS,T.V. PRTRAYAL ABOUT HOW "NOT PLAYA" IT IS TO COMMIT TO ONE CHICK,SCARED OF WHAT BUDDIES MIGHT THINK AND THEY HAVE CONVINCED THEMSELVES OF ALL THE REASONS WHY THEY CANT BE A ONE WOMAN MAN. AS LONG AS A MAN SAYS "IM NOT REALLY LOOKING FOR NOTHING...JUST WANNA CHILL AND KICK IT"...ONCE THATS BEEN SAID HES MADE IT CLEAR HE DONT WANT yOU AND IVE MADE THE MISTAKE OF GOING ALONG WITH IT TILL I CATCH FEELINGS JUST TO END UP aT SQUARE ONE..."YOU tRIPPIN...I tOLD YOU I WASNT TRYING TO DATE" USUALLY fOLLOWS ALONG WITH aVOIDANCE FOR EVEN PRESSING tHE ISSUE. WONT BE HAPPENING AGAIN.HIS NEGATIVE VIEWS ON RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE a CONSTANT CONFLICT #3.REASON I FEEL MEN WONT COMMIT...LETS FACE IT...MOST MEN JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH OTHER wOMEN. IF HE TALKS aBOUT IT IN tHE FIRST CONVO,COMING IN THE DOOR TALKING ABOUT P*SSY OR AUTOMATICALLY SHOOTS A PENIS PICTURE .ITS AN aUTOMATIC RED FLAG. REGARDLESS OF WHAT POPULAR BELIEF IS ...ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT. ALL MEN DONT HAVE THE FANTASY OF BEING WITH 2 WOMEN aND WITH THAT BEING SAID I DONT BELIEVE IN a MAN HAVING A FEMALE FRIEND WHILE IN a RELATIONSHIP WITH ME IF I CANT MEET HER. I SHOULD BE YOUR fRIEND,CONFIDANT aND LOVER.NO RESPECTING FAITHFUL MAN WILL eVEN TRY tO CONVINCE YOU OF OTHERWISE UNLESS THEIR TRYING tO KEEP tHE GATE OPEN TO CREEP OUT ,IF HES EVEN STOPPED OR HAVENT ALREADY...HE WILL CHEAT.#4.IVE HAD MEN THAT WOULDNT COMMITT TO ME BECAUSE THEY sEE IM AN OVER ACHIEVER wITH ALOT OF GOALS AND AMBITIONSaND AM CURRENTLY MAKING THEM HAPPEN.IF A GUY DOESNT HAVE MUCH GOING FOR THEMSELVES OR CANT STEP OUT THE BOX TO SEE THE BIG PICTURE THEY GET INTIMIDATED aND SHY aWAY FROM ME FOR FEAR THAT THEY CANT PULL THROUGH ON tHEIR PART.PRIDE IS THE CAUSE.EGOS ARE THE CAUSE. GETTING ON BOARD WITH YOUR OWN DREAMS AND SUPPORTING US IS THE SOLUTION.INTIMIDATION WILL CLOUD YOUR sIGHT ... YOU CANT SEE wHERE YOUD FIT IN YOU CANT COMMIT.THE LAST REASON IS MAYBE HE JUST wASNT THAT INTO yOU IN THE FIRST PLACE AND MAYBE HAD ULTERIOR MOTIVES.HE MAY CARE ABOUT YOU BUT DONT SEE THEMSELVES AS BEING IN LOVE WITH YOU.THERE ISNT a TRUE CONNECTION BUT WHAT IS PROVIDED IS ENOUGH TO KEEP HIM AROUND AND HE MAY BE HOLDING ON FOR ALL THE WRONG rEASONS.ASK YOURSELF IS THIS FAIR TO DRAG  ANYONE aLONG WITH FALSE HOPE WHEN YOU DONT SEE YOURSELF TAKING THAT NEXT STEP..IN CONCLUSION...IF YOU HAD a CHANCE BEFFORE AND DIDNT TAKE IT DONT TRY tO COME BACK IN MY LIFE.SOME PPL DONT REALIZE WHAT THEY COULDVE HAD TILL ITS GONE AND HAD U BEEN PATIENT WITH MY sHORTCOMINGS COULDVE MADE SOMETHInG HAPPEN AND DOESNT MEAN YOURE SUPPOSED TO GET ANOTHER CHANCE JUST BECAUSE A LIGHT BULB WENT OFF IN YOUR HEAD... "SHE COULDVE BEEN MINE" IS AN AFTERTHOUGHT CAUSE WHEN I FINALLY AM OFF THE MARKET THE MAN GOD CHOOSES FOR ME WILL BE IN tOTAL BLISS aND I DESERVE MY HAPPILY EVER AFTER. ~MARIA~